My life is far from being ideal. Just like everyone else, I get my share of doubters, detractors, financial challenges, insecurities, not getting support, and being treated as an afterthought.
But the older I get, the less I care about the setbacks and disappointments. It’s not that I don’t get hurt anymore. It’s just that I move on much faster now. I realised that worrying doesn’t really solve anything. I’m only hurting myself even more. So I’d rather think of what’s still working. What I can do to either change the situation or better myself.
Although I’m still far from where I want to be, I started appreciating myself more. Before, without a doubt, I’ll be depressed for days or months even, for things that are beyond my control. However, now, I’m getting comfort in knowing that I tried. I know that I always do my best with what I have, may it be skills, resources or time. I always try to put my best foot forward. I’ve grown and still growing, and that is more important.
Meditation also helped me. I know I’ve been talking about it like a broken record, but seriously, it works. I feel that it creates space in my mind whenever I’m on the brink of self-doubt and exhaustion. I guess one thing that made it easy for me to practice meditation is my comfort in my silence. I’m generally quiet, and have no trouble just appreciating the stillness or someone else’s thought. It’s not that I don’t have anything to say, more of I like listening to my environment and to other people’s story. Everyone wants to be heard, and as much as I want people to listen to me because I worked hard for it for so long, I learned that I can be an ear and offer my time to someone who needs it more.
Another thing that registered to me is the difference of having your “happy place” as an actual space or something tangible rather than your mind. When you depend on something or someone whenever you need to pull the happiest thoughts and project it to your current situation, there will be chances when there’s a gap between what you’re expecting and what’s realistic. Like if you love pizza so much that you bought one in order to relieve yourself of the stress you’re going through, there may be a chance that the taste of the pizza isn’t at par with your favorite box. On the other hand, when you establish peace within yourself, there is a more natural acceptance of the situation and the act of letting go. It’s easier to acknowledge the past which you cannot change, the present that gives you the option of how to react, and the future that is yet to come. That way, you get to flush out the stress out of your system and pull back what is essential.
If I’ll be asked to write a letter to my younger self, I would start by saying “you’re going to be okay.” Sometimes, all you have to do is to remind yourself that you are loved, that you are unique, talented, and capable of doing great things. Remember that we live by the choices we make. So I hope that we always choose happiness, and give blessings a better chance. Life may be tough at times, but there is always a choice to see the good in every situation.
That was quick, November. Hello, December!
Stay inspried. Later days!
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Niguel is an experienced creative and marketing professional pursuing his dreams while growing with infinite possibilities.