Rejection isn't the nicest thing to get (especially on a Monday) nor the easiest one to accept and give. It's natural to question the act and the circumstances surrounding it. It's easy to feel pity for ourselves, and ask if the world is conspiring against us. Considering that we are generally good beings, and that we strive hard to better the current state that we are experiencing.
But any moment, relationship or opportunity has that side whether we like it or not. As cliche as it sounds, it is not always about us. We have to accept that it can be about external factors like time, other people, systems and structures. Sometimes, we just have to acknowledge the simple idea that it's just the way it is, for now.
I started writing this post a few weeks back, but I didn't feel like it was the right time to publish it because I was still thinking of some points to include. Inspired by the Easter question "Are we worth saving for?" Hopefully, this article makes a lot of sense now. :)
Before my birth month ends and we welcome Easter this year, I'd like to thank everyone who made 30 years of my existence awesome.
A college friend of mine mentioned that she was so happy that I'm over the most confusing years of our lives - our twenties. Hilarious as it may sound, it's been a solid emotional roller coaster for most of us. I'm really thankful that I feel a lot calmer and content now, as compared to when I was starting to build my career path. We've all been there, and to some extent, been judged for our youth. Although I would agree that some would act entitled, I wouldn't really generalize anything, as most of us just wants to prove our worth in this life.
Anyway, I'm seriously grateful for all the experiences and people who have been part of those moments. I love you all!
I’ve been missing out on my Headspace sessions because of my need for “me-time”, forgetting that by going through meditation, I’m actually doing myself a favor. However, even if my mind was still adjusting this morning, trying to focus on the now and just breathing, it was a good feeling to be back.
The mind is like a blank canvas. What you paint on it, stays on it.
Have you ever had a thought that you keep replaying in your mind? Sometimes, we create a story in our head based on past experiences, observations, conversations, and ideas that we perceive it as the truth, and to an extent of projecting it to our lives. Even to a point of either pushing us to act on the thought or hindering ourselves from taking action.
These are the times when meditation comes in handy. By allowing the mind to wander, and gently recollect itself, we give it the opportunity to find clarity. In that clarity, we are able to unravel the points in our thoughts that are essential, what makes sense, and what is real. Hence, frees us from getting fixated on the storylines in our mind, which excludes us from the continuity of the world around us.
We’ve officially entered a new chapter in our lives. Just like everyone else, I have the habit of looking back and feeling thankful for the year that ended, and hopeful for the one that just started.
One thing that I’m amazed of is that I wouldn’t have thought that I’d be able to sustain a conversation based on beverages. I remember looking at bottles of wine, and editing menus and listings in past jobs, but wouldn’t really have a clue of what I was writing about. I’d do my research, just like any PR-Marketing person or writer, but as I haven’t really tried the product or conversed with the “authority”, the lines remained mere words to me.
Although I wouldn’t consider myself as an “expert”, as my friends would tease, I’m glad that I somewhat understand brands and products now.
My life is far from being ideal. Just like everyone else, I get my share of doubters, detractors, financial challenges, insecurities, not getting support, and being treated as an afterthought.
But the older I get, the less I care about the setbacks and disappointments. It’s not that I don’t get hurt anymore. It’s just that I move on much faster now. I realised that worrying doesn’t really solve anything. I’m only hurting myself even more. So I’d rather think of what’s still working. What I can do to either change the situation or better myself.
Have you tried meditating before? I’m not being paid or anything to advertise the app, but I’m really enjoying these short quiet moments in the morning. I feel lighter as compared to when I was just going through my daily routines. The relaxed state also helps my mind put my thoughts into writing. But maybe you’re using a different program or just doing it on your own. Either way, I hope you find time to meditate.
Experience and tradition tells us that if we want to achieve something, we have to make the effort. However, this is not always the case, as relaxing is just as important as persistently taking action.
”Why am I at fault? I didn’t do anything wrong. I only did it because...” The most common reaction we make when we’re being questioned.
Accepting one’s fault is never a sign of weakness. We do not lose face in it. Rather, it exemplifies our strength and the courage to accept the opportunity to improve ourselves. When we excuse ourselves from a situation, when we try our best to find loop holes in an argument rather than possibilities, we resist growth and the chance to see the bigger picture. It’s not saying that we should blindly take what is being presented to us, but it speaks of being critical to the circumstances that constitute the truth.
I’m a Vincent Van Gogh fan. Not the biggest geek who can spend hours talking about this amazing Dutch post-impressionist artist, but I really like his art, and his realisations. Somehow, they relate to me.
Niguel is an experienced creative and marketing professional pursuing his dreams while growing with infinite possibilities.