I start my day early. My body clock wakes me up between 3:30am and 4:30am, no matter how late I sleep. I usually find it hard to go back to bed so I'd rather start my day than force myself by counting sheep.
Before, my routine starts with a prayer, then meditation, then a home exercise, before going through the chores and responsibilities for the day. Now, I'd wake up, pray and then check my emails and messages, immediately going to my work mode.
As the day progresses, I'm usually looking for something I can't define or at times have some sort of irritation for something I cannot control. I realised that this is because I'm no longer giving myself time, again. Wanting to finish as much as I could within the day, I'd rather work than engage in other activities such as conversing with other people. Yes, my days are filled with meetings (tons of it), but having real conversations, where you explore the depths of life or the shallowness of it is something that I miss. I also miss writing, writing for the sake of it, not because it's part of the job. After all, writing copies, editing texts, making reports, and what not is what I usually do on top of other things.
Today's meditation helped me think about these things. I realised that how you love yourself is reflected by how the world loves you. When you choose you, giving yourself time to laugh, heal, and grow, the world will compensate it by giving you opportunities to continue doing so.
Funny, when I thought of writing this post, I even saw a quote by Sarah Dessen that goes "Self respect. If you don't have it, the world will walk all over you." I agree with her, in a sense that we define our journey. Although there are factors that are beyond us, how we choose to live our life is completely in our hands.
Having reflections in the morning is one of the reasons why I love meditation. It's not about being in the present by letting go of both the past and the future. It's about understanding and appreciating the now by going through your past and projecting yourself in the future. By scanning the past from a distance, we are able to see angles that we usually miss during the moment. In this process, we see ourselves clearly, affecting how we see other people. Seeing them as they are, not how we want them to be.
Today, I tried to get back to my old routine. In the hope that I flush out the stress that I've accumulated by missing out, I decided to meditate again and write about some thoughts,
How the "I" affects the "them"
Have you ever found yourself lost for words? Tired of explaining yourself because you feel the redundancy or lack for the need of it? It's as if you're talking to a wall. One thing that I learned to address when I started practicing meditation is how I communicate with other people. Sometimes, we have this great need to be in control, wishing that others can think and act the way we do or the way we want them to, forgetting that we all have different circumstances. Our uniqueness is what makes us special. Hence, being the only player in the chess game would defeat the purpose of being human.
I understand that in the sea of noise, we all want to be heard and recognised, but it's sometimes not in the "who that person is", but in the how we interact with them that falls short. An image can be interpreted a million ways. The way we see the present may not be the exact angle as to how that person interprets it. If we try to look at things from their perspective, we may be able to find the missing link as to why we fail to connect in the first place.
Live in the present and appreciate the future
When we focus much on the destination, we miss out on the journey - the exact words I got from my Headspace session the other morning. We put all our energy in ensuring we get the future we want that we miss relaxing on the uncertainty of life, in the unfolding of the now. Don't we all agree that change is the only constant thing in this life?
By allowing life to unfold at every moment, instead of having a concrete schedule of "how things should be" then we allow it to surprise us. We give it the chance to teach us and help us continue become better versions of ourselves.
Although struggles are both painful and inevitable, we should never regret them simply because they help us build our character. Sometimes, we don’t realise that we actually prayed for the current state we’re in. That the challenges of today play an integral part of the outcome we want to achieve.
A few grey clouds should never darken our sky. There's even a saying that reminds us to dance in the rain, right?
How you love yourself is reflected by how the world loves you. When you choose you, giving yourself time to laugh, heal, and grow, the world will compensate it by giving you opportunities to continue doing so.
I may have murdered this post by over writing, but I'm just glad that I was able to share my thoughts while I remember them. :)
What I'm really trying to say here is that we should appreciate the importance of our morning routines. How we choose to take in our first light helps us define how we take hold of the rest of the day. When we choose to start our day with a positive outlook, the energy we give out to the world trickles down to how it talks to us through different moments and people. When we frown the moment we wake up, there is a big tendency that we will be perceiving the day with stress or worse, with anger. Hence, let's kickstart the day with a smile. Greet each morning with love by doing what we love. Spend it with people who are important to us, and allow life surprise us with its unfolding.
How do you start your morning?
Stay inspired and later days!
Niguel is an experienced creative and marketing professional pursuing his dreams while growing with infinite possibilities.