Experience and tradition tells us that if we want to achieve something, we have to make the effort. However, this is not always the case, as relaxing is just as important as persistently taking action.
This was the the topic in yesterday’s Headspace session: Acknowledging one’s presence while letting the mind wander where it wants to go.
They cited that when you want to sleep, you’ll do all the miticulous preparations: taking a shower, drinking warm milk, setting the mood of the room, but as you keep thinking of diving into slumber, the more difficult it becomes - the less sleepy you get.
Similar to relationships, there are cases when you have to step back and let time do the hard work. Misunderstandings become heated when we rush in to fix it. Arguments at times get worse if we keep touching it, rather than breathing and allowing each other find comfort in personal spaces. The breathing allows our mind to untie the knots of confusion, and makes it open to realisations.
On a grander scale, we should not force ourselves to fit where we do not belong. Sometimes people come into our lives to teach us a lesson, to help us develop on that specific moment, but not necessarily stay. Accepting the fact that no one remains the same, and that we cannot force our ideals to other people, frees us from the tension and stress of chasing, of forcing things to work the way we want them to be. I guess this is where closure comes in - when we let our egos step back, and the relationship ease through time, we find new joys in each other’s company or the absence of it, allowing us to move on with our lives.
Even at work, we should not overthink things. “Perfect” doesn’t always translate to what is needed, to what works. Just letting the task take the normal relaxed flow makes it easier to achieve goals. You’ll be surprised that the less effort you exert, the better it becomes - the more satisfied the client gets.
I remember being so mad every time I ran out of words when I do my write-ups, trying so hard to make it the “best” one yet. However, the harder I try, the more complex and confusing the article becomes. Worse, there were cases when files get corrupted and I get stressed out. Then, as time passed, I learned to relax more. When I returned to my drafts, I am able to see what I can expound on, what needs some editing. Thus, finish in time and get everything approved.
So again, let’s remember to relax and breathe. Life is too short to be so hard on ourselves.
Have a beautiful day. Stay inspired.
Niguel is an experienced creative and marketing professional pursuing his dreams while growing with infinite possibilities.