I started writing this post a few weeks back, but I didn't feel like it was the right time to publish it because I was still thinking of some points to include. Inspired by the Easter question "Are we worth saving for?" Hopefully, this article makes a lot of sense now. :)
Before my birth month ends and we welcome Easter this year, I'd like to thank everyone who made 30 years of my existence awesome.
A college friend of mine mentioned that she was so happy that I'm over the most confusing years of our lives - our twenties. Hilarious as it may sound, it's been a solid emotional roller coaster for most of us. I'm really thankful that I feel a lot calmer and content now, as compared to when I was starting to build my career path. We've all been there, and to some extent, been judged for our youth. Although I would agree that some would act entitled, I wouldn't really generalize anything, as most of us just wants to prove our worth in this life.
Anyway, I'm seriously grateful for all the experiences and people who have been part of those moments. I love you all!
"Is it worth it?" That's a question that I've been asking for a month now, and I feel like it can apply to various situations.
One is that sometimes we say or do things out of curiosity or based on the circumstances that arise, letting ourselves be caught up in emotions. We forget the power of words, and that one burst of feeling from our end can actually affect a day or week or even longer for others. Worse, if we take action without thinking things through. A minute of satisfaction can alter the life of an individual. Like if you're so frustrated with an employee, do you blurt out the harshest accusations, burning the bridge between that person and the company, or do you control yourself and take the side of reason, maintaining a good relationship and preventing a bigger drama out of it?
Similarly, if a friend did something against you, do you spread gossip to cause that person the same pain you suffered or take the higher ground by understanding where that person is coming from and moving forward?
I think we should be wise enough to examine the words in our heads before we speak or act on them. Conveniently, THINK is an acronym for the questions:
T - Is it the truth?
H - Is it helpful?
I - Is it inspiring?
N - Is it necessary?
K - Is it kind?
Take into consideration if it will add value to the current situation. Does it improve our current state and those around us? Let’s stop victimizing others with our need for power or attention to prove ourselves right. Think if what we're doing coincides with the truth or just a part of it, stitched into a reality that our imagination produced. We should always choose our battles. Not every argument is worth the stress.
Likewise, we should stop being victims of our own mind - our disappointments, anger, self-doubt, pain, and despair. Which leads me to the second point that sometimes, we tend to overthink. The fear that we will not be able to accomplish what we aimed to accomplish or doubt that we are worth the blessings we are reaping. "Do we deserve this promotion? Are we worth the love that we're getting? Can I really take a break?"
I admit, I still ask myself if I can slow down and give myself more time. Workaholic as I am, I tend to think that I can't go home on time or take a vacation leave. Not that I'm putting myself on a pedestal or don't trust that a system will work things out. It's just that I value the trust that was given to me, forgetting that I am also a priority. Taking care of my personal growth and health will trickle down into being able to take care of others or giving other individuals the chance to rise to the challenge. A previous boss once said to me "Is the world going to end if you don't do this now? Then go home and give yourself a break."
We also forget to give ourselves some credit. Despite the sacrifices we make, we sometimes have the habit of thinking that somebody else deserves our blessings, or that we are to blame if some things don't go well as planned. Like in relationships, I don't think there should be pointing fingers. Rather, be reminded that it takes two to tango. Two whole persons who chose to be bonded together, and not some puzzle pieces or shards of a broken glass. Whatever outcome of that bond is the sum of the decisions that both of you made.
In addition to the point that we choose our battles and to stop being victims of our mind, today's meditation was very timely. It spoke of freedom. Freedom and happiness is already here. If we can get out of the mindset of wanting something - "if only I have this, I will be happy" or getting somewhere - "if only I can land that job / travel to.. I'll be fine" in order to feel a sense of contentment, then we will realize that there are so many wonders around us, that we're okay, and that joy starts from within, instead of being a product of outside factors.
So let's keep asking ourselves, is it worth it? Hopefully we start making things better for everyone.
Stay inspired, and later days!
Niguel is an experienced creative and marketing professional pursuing his dreams while growing with infinite possibilities.